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Controlling What You Can Spend

Someone uses technology to restrict your spending — setting limits on cards, requiring approval for purchases, or controlling access to money through banking apps.

What You Might Notice

  • Your card is declined for purchases you should be able to make

    Spending limits have been set without your agreement.

  • You need to request or justify every purchase

    The other person requires approval before you can spend.

  • Restrictions change based on the other person's mood or as punishment

    Your access to money is used as a tool of control.

What You Can Do

  • Contact your bank about your rights to your own accounts

    You have legal rights to accounts in your name.

  • Build independent financial access gradually

    A separate account, even with small amounts, creates options.

  • Seek financial counselling

    Free financial counselling services can help you plan for financial independence.

Important: This resource provides general information, not personal advice. Every situation is different. The actions suggested here may not be safe in your specific circumstances — particularly if the person causing harm could notice changes to your devices or accounts. Always consider your physical safety first.

If you need personalised support, contact 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732) or your local specialist domestic violence service. If you are in immediate danger, call 000.

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