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If you or your child is experiencing this: do not comply with further demands. Compliance almost never stops the demands — it escalates them. This is not your fault, regardless of what was shared. Help is available and this can be stopped.

Someone is using intimate images to control you or your child

They convinced you (or your child) to share an intimate image, and now they're using it as leverage — demanding more images, money, or compliance. The threat of exposure feels overwhelming, but compliance almost always leads to escalation, not safety.

What You Might Notice

  • Demands escalate after the first image is shared

    What started as one image becomes demands for more, for video, for money, for meeting in person.

  • Threats to send images to friends, family, or school

    The perpetrator uses the victim's social network as leverage — 'I'll send this to everyone you know.'

  • Your child suddenly becomes withdrawn, anxious, or changes device behaviour

    Secrecy about their phone, staying up late, emotional distress — these can indicate sextortion.

  • Unexplained money transfers from your child's accounts

    Some sextortion demands are financial — the child may be sending money to make it stop.

What You Can Do

  • Stop all communication with the person making demands

    Block them on every platform. Do not respond to threats. They are counting on your fear.

    If you're concerned about immediate safety, contact police.

  • Do not pay or send more content

    Paying or complying does not make it stop. It proves the leverage works and demands will escalate.

  • Report to the eSafety Commissioner

    The eSafety Commissioner can issue takedown notices to platforms and help with image removal. esafety.gov.au

  • Talk to your child with compassion, not anger

    They are the victim. Their biggest fear is your reaction. Respond with support and they'll let you help.

    What they need to hear: 'This is not your fault. I'm not angry. We will sort this out together.'

  • Report to police and ACCCE for child victims

    This is a crime. accce.gov.au/report for child exploitation. Police for all victims.

Important: This resource provides general information, not personal advice. Every situation is different. The actions suggested here may not be safe in your specific circumstances — particularly if the person causing harm could notice changes to your devices or accounts. Always consider your physical safety first.

If you need personalised support, contact 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732) or your local specialist domestic violence service. If you are in immediate danger, call 000.

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