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Sabotaging Your Network & Connections

Someone contacts your friends, family, colleagues, or community to spread lies about you — turning your support network against you so you have nowhere to turn.

What You Might Notice

  • People in your life are distancing themselves based on false information

    Relationships change because of things the other person has told them.

  • The other person contacts your friends, family, or workplace

    They reach out to people in your life under various pretexts.

  • Your reputation within your community shifts without explanation

    People treat you differently based on a narrative you didn't create.

What You Can Do

  • Talk directly to the people who matter

    Have honest conversations with close friends and family about what's happening.

  • Keep records of what the other person tells people

    If you learn about specific lies, document them.

  • Don't try to counter every lie

    Focus on your closest relationships. You can't control everyone's perception.

Important: This resource provides general information, not personal advice. Every situation is different. The actions suggested here may not be safe in your specific circumstances — particularly if the person causing harm could notice changes to your devices or accounts. Always consider your physical safety first.

If you need personalised support, contact 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732) or your local specialist domestic violence service. If you are in immediate danger, call 000.

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